So I wanted to write a final post before I got rid of this blog, cause I feel I owe you guys that much for all that you’ve helped and supported me and the people around me over the years. I guess all I can do on this final post is offer one final piece of advice to you all that I genuinely in my heart hope you listen to.
Over the years I’ve been given a lot of grief for trying to offer advice and help to trans guys when I myself am I fact cis, which to some degree I understand cause I will obviously never understand what it feels like to live as you are, as you will sadly never understand what it feels like to live as I do, but that’s not to say I can’t still try to offer help and help should never be turned down regardless of who it’s from because it’s such a rare thing that is never really willingly given and by few. So I guess the last thing I really want to say to you guys is, I know your life is hard, I know things are not easy, I know you wake up every day and cry and feel such pain and think that it was not meant to be like this I really do. I know you harm yourselves and plan death and do things that can never be taken back, I know cause I’ve seen them, I’ve been there and had to pick up the pieces, wrap the bandages, clean the blood up and wipe away the tears of their face as well as mine. So please I implore you to not push away those who are there for you most no matter how awful you are feeling. No matter how much it hurts and little you feel you care about life and anyone around you at the time you must keep caring about that one person who always tries for you. So few will actually fully understand and care for you to the degree that you actually need and that’s regardless if they’re professional, friends, family or partners. You life is hard and no one should ever take the depth of your struggles away from you also, but if you do not listen to the advise of a single other cis person in your life other than me saying this now just hear this. One persons walk in the park may be another persons battlefield, although your battles are great and many, this does not undermine the struggles of others who may need your help too. Although suffering constantly, you guys are still all human each and every one of you and are capable of being loved and loving in return and eventually someone will need that love from you and will need your help and although your lives may be hard and your struggles many, you can not overlook the struggles of those around you no matter how lesser they may seem in comparison. It’s so easy to get wrapped up in a transition when it obviously at one point feels like yours and your supporters/friends/partners entire life but do not let it consume you and everything you do cause you are all so much more then a gender marker or a diagnosis or journey that is difficult. You are all people who still have to live your lives and live them with others.
Do not allow also people to sway your choices, your mind will be filled with confusion and upset enough already without having to adhere to the wants and concerns of others around you and their judgments upon you and your life and your choices. How you choose to live your life is as down to you and as much your decision as any other free person. Who you love, where you live, how you live, what you do and who you do it with is your decision and yours alone no matter who else says otherwise, be it friends, co workers, family or whoever.
If they loved you they would be happy for your happiness no matter what that entailed or how it showed itself and nothing less.I WILL TRY AND ANSWER ANY FINAL QUESTIONS ANON OR NOT :)
Thank You For All You Help!
I wish nothing but a happy life for each and every single one of you =!